Photo Challenge: Transient

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How ironic this was the photo challenge

We just said goodbye (Saturday) to my 24 year old son.  He packed up his car and is driving across country to California to live, not knowing anyone there, not knowing what to excpect when he arrives.  He is following his dream of wanting to make movies

He has a few screenplays he’s written under his belt, a car full of his clothes etc and a shared apartment he’s renting with people he hasn’t even met yet waiting for him when he gets there, Talk about a gutsy move!

He’s going to be transient for a week or more, moving from city to city, stopping off a few places along the way in scorching summer temperatures

I couldn’t even be sad he was leaving, because I am so happy he’s doing what he’s always wanted to do

He’ll be seeing different towns, interacting with and meeting lots of new people

The last memory of him leaving was me giving him a hug, and because he is so tall, my head was on his chest, I could hear his heart was beating fast, it’s the last thing I will remember

Tonight I went to the kitchen to make myself a salad, there was no light under his door, it was completely dark, but instead of being sad, it made me smile, he’s really doing this!

Brassy – Brazen, loud & Bold

Master Obnoxious

via Daily Prompt: Brassy

If you were to look up  “Brassy” in the dictionary, I’m sure you would find a photo of my son

He is loud, determined, not afraid to speak his mind.  While it gets on my nerves more often than not, I am quite sure these are qualities he is going to be able to use well on into his adulthood. They are qualities that will no doubt take him far, especially as he has chosen to major in International Relations once he starts college in the fall

I was an extremely shy, a painfully shy child growing up, I hid behind my mother’s skirt, too nervous to ever look anyone in the eye, never spoke out of line or spoke unless I was spoken to first, (you’d never know it now), If there was a problem, we usually suffered in silence

Thankfully, I somehow managed to ‘find my voice’ lol….as I got older and now you can’t shut me up given the right audience or when I see some injustice happening or untruth being told, nothing raises my volume more than someone telling lies about me, I can’t stand it, and I won’t stand for it

I wonder where kids get their brazen attitudes from these days.  Seems most of the kids that live around here are, well, “brassy”, loud and outspoken, bordering on disrespectful and obnoxious

My son really is not like me, in fact, we are total opposites, yet I guess I have had to stand up and take charge of situations often enough that he may have learned traits and behaviors along the way from me that I am not proud of, with all the drama that’s gone on over the years, I seemed to have yelled far more about things during his childhood than I ever did with my first son, maybe by the time he came around, I’d just had enough, I don’t know, no excuses….

My kids are sadly growing up in a much more violent and volatile environment than I did, in society in general…there is drama on just about every street corner of the world going on around them, they have to fight harder to survive at school, they have to be louder and more outspoken to get their point of view across, and don’t even start with the haters on social media, only the strong are going to survive that one

I don’t need to hand out parenting advice to anyone, Lord knows I’ve made many mistakes along the way with my own kids, you live and learn, they didn’t come with a handbook and I was determined to give them a voice and let them be open-minded, unlike my upbringing, maybe I gave them too much freedom…. I sometimes wonder about that

Shy kids don’t stand much of a chance, I am seeing it more and more, everywhere I go

You sit quietly in line and wait patiently, it seems to get you nowhere, it’s always the loud obnoxious ones that create drama that cut the line and seem to get seen to first (mostly to shut them up and get them out of the way)……it’s just wrong

Being polite, quiet reserved & respectful are traits I wish more kids had, loud kids just seem to dominate every social situation and get ahead because they are more brazen than their counterparts

From politicians to celebrities, world leaders to comedians, to the every day citizen, it always seems to be the loudest ones that get the most attention, the ones that shut up and do their job, we seldom hear about

Is it merely a case of standing up for yourself or is it the attention seekers that seem to hold the power ?……I don’t know for sure

I know when I am quiet and play by the rules, it quite often gets me nowhere, especially when it comes to healthcare or even with problems I am having with customer service, they just don’t seem to take any notice of you and you don’t get results until you are yelling like a lunatic

Have we become so numb that obnoxiousness now is the norm?  I certainly hope not

You can call it being brazen, loud, brassy, whatever you like, when we were growing up, it was called being obnoxious and generally wasn’t tolerated in our community

I know I’m old fashioned, I’m okay with that label, it seemed to carry a lot more tolerance and respect for others

For the past year or so, I have deliberately dedicated my twitter feed to celebrating the quieter ones, the ones who do good works without asking for recognition, the good news stories we don’t seem to hear that much about in the media.

If we start to celebrate the less dominant folks, and stop giving all the attention to the loud ones, we might just see a shift in society for the better, and get more things done, and be more productive and be respectful of each other

It’s a shame the quiet achievers don’t seem to be recognized or celebrated nearly enough, maybe that needs to change a little

Flowers, Chocolate Cake & Uninvited Guests – Happy Mother’s Day

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Ok, so what I am about to write is going to sound totally whack, but this really happened to me today!

Friday my husband brought home a dozen long stem red roses, my fav, score!

Then Yesterday we went out for lunch, had a nice time, dropped my son off, went downtown & listened to a band at the Bistro, beautiful weather, gorgeous breeze, great relaxing afternoon, went home, got sushi on the way home for dinner, watched SNL with my son, went to bed, pretty good Mother’s Day Weekend so far

So this morning I woke up, Mothers Day, (my eldest son is travelling around Europe at the moment), he texted me to wish me a Happy Mother’s Day 🙂 Nice to wake up to, he was online, we chatted a bit. He was sitting at the same coffee shop in Edinburgh where JK Rowling penned Harry Potter, he was so happy, my heart was smiling, I was thrilled to bits he was there and that he was having this experience. I could feel how happy he was, I was so excited for him

So here is where it gets a little weird

Ok, I looked up online the coffee shop, “The Elephant House”, where he was, I saw the awesome Castle out the back of the coffee shop that you can see from the back window of the café….they also had a live webcam but it was down, offline…

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I sent him the pic of the castle to show him what I was talking about to see if he could see it from where he was sitting, but before sending it to him, I scrolled through my photo on my phone to see if it was a clear or blurry photo to send him and what I saw on my phone photo scroll totally freaked me out

The last photos I had taken on my phone was of him leaving for his trip, then in between that photo of my son leaving and the castle photo at the café was THIS:

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I do not know these people! I have no clue who they are or how they got on my phone.  I looked at the time stamp – Thurs May 11, 2017 1:00 am in the morning and no location, every other photo has the location, date & time

I am 99.9999% sure I was at home in my bed sound asleep 1am Thurs!!! Well 100% sure I was home in bed, almost positively certain I was asleep

All week I hadn’t slept well because I am going to physio 3 times a week for my back, I knew I didn’t have to get up early for physio so it was the first really good nights sleep I had had in about 2-3 weeks

This photo totally freaked me out

It seriously got on my phone while I was asleep

And the other thing is, every night before I go to sleep, I shut down my laptop and all the tabs and it is closed until I start working on it the next day

I did a reverse image Tineye search, nothing came up

It was a clear photo, not a photo from a computer screen, and  it wasn’t a screen grab (which I didn’t know how to do on my phone anyway) …it would have shown the news article the photo was with and had text/print around it if it was a screen grab, it would not have been a stand alone photo

My son suggested I do a google image search, and sure enough, there was a story about this family linking to this article:

http://www.stuff.co.nz/business/money/92419494/mum-who-loaned-daughter-360k-says-its-all-terrible

I have never read this story or ever logged onto that website before

So no one knew how it got there…just bizarre….but that’s not the end of the voodoo story

Talk about uninvited Mothers Day guests ! creepy!

It totally baffled me, I have no clue how it got on there, I would have had to power up my laptop, open the page, pick up my phone in my sleep, press buttons to take a screen grab of my laptop (which was SHUT the whole time), all in my sleep, …??? excuse my language but WTF!!!

We all got ready to go our for Mothers Day brunch, on the way to lunch was a blue cavalier in front of us, (same as my car that I loved that I adored & desperately miss, that was written off in a car accident, the reason I need physio 6mths later) and then a red sonic (same as my eldest sons car who is in Europe) went past the cavalier…ok…coincidence…whatever

We went to lunch at the Marriott downtown, I was mucking around with my younger son taking silly photos of each other, he was taking photos of me taking a photo of him..

I scrolled back through the photos we took and saw the creepy family and went to delete it, THERE WAS NO DELETE button/option like there normally is on photos and like there was on every other photo on my camera, the delete button showed up for every other photo except that one, so I couldn’t delete it

So we get home from lunch, my husband presented me with a chocolate cake

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We went and got changed, I checked emails, and my eldest son had replied, so I sent him a few more messages and uploaded lunch photos to facebook to share with my family back home, the photo of the odd family that I couldn’t delete at lunch time, was GONE, no trace of it on my phone and the photo number between my son leaving and the castle was missing, it was as if it never happened, no trace of the family in the photo

While we were driving home from lunch, it was erased from my phone, my phone was in my handbag

You tell me….??

So when I saw the daily prompt for today was Hospitality, I chuckled to myself, I am usually a very hospitable person, but today my uninvited Mothers Day guests weren’t welcome in my home

I still don’t get it, any of it

Welcome to my crazy life!

and you’ll laugh, the second I hit ‘Publish’ to post this live, my internet went offline…

Photo Challenge: Reflecting

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Overworked = Motherhood

Overworked – Daily Prompt

 

I love being unappreciated, disrespected & everyone's doormat ... Said no mother ever:

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