I don’t know where my love for the cinema really comes from
When we were growing up, we were not allowed to go to the movies
I grew up in a very strict old fashioned church family and my parents beliefs were that only sinful stuff went on at the cinema, on and off screen
They firmly believed only lewd sexual conduct was portrayed in film and it was not content or language that ‘people like us’ should ever be exposed to
I am not sure what movies they have ever seen in their life, but I sure haven’t seen the XXX-Rated smut they were ever talking about…lol
I remember my mother telling us that people that go to the movies get up to no good, they are holding hands one minute and before you know it are pregnant and having babies… ??? um….???
Seriously, I don’t know what cinemas they were going to, but I have never been to one movie theatre yet where there was room or opportunity to have sex at in full view of the public….wow…I have been to hundreds of movie theatres and never seen it going on
Now I will confess, there have been movies I have been coerced into going to where there was more nudity and language than I was comfortable watching with my adult or 17 yr old son sitting next to me, but they are far and few between, they majority have been clean, wholesome, family fun
My Grandmother was not cut from the same cloth as my parents. She was the coolest person I ever knew. She only went to church Easter Sunday and Christmas (lucky her, we were dragged there every Sunday, sometimes twice on Sundays and it was, well pretty much, excruciating, I’d rather have been in a coma) and she was always getting into trouble for handing out candy to us during the service
She LOVED going to the movies
She never drove a car, so she would walk to the bus stop and ride the bus into town to go to the cinema, it was a whole day outing for her
Seems like an awful lot of trouble to go to, just to see a movie, but I admire her appreciation for the arts
She loved watching the old black and white films and romanticized about the handsome actors on the big screen
Can’t say I blamed her, her life at home pretty much sucked from what I saw of it
She loved Ginger and Fred, Frank, Debbie Reynolds, Elizabeth Taylor…Cary Grant….mmm, she had good taste
We loved watching movies with her on Sundays on tv too, Tammy, Gidgit, Elvis
And she had a whole other thing for Liberace, all the outfits and jewels, much to my father’s dismay
She loved the glitz and glamour and romance of the cinema and Old Hollywood, I get it..
I can totally relate to this, I still like seeing my favorites up on the screen…I am a sucker for a well groomed, tall, dark and handsome man …George Clooney (who isn’t), Richard Gere, Clint Eastwood and Scott for that matter, Vince Vaughn, Jason Bateman, Pierce Brosnan, Hugh Grant… I also don’t mind Kevin Costner and a couple of other blondies…I never cared too much for Tom Cruise or Brad Pitt, I never saw what the fuss was about with them…and much to my kids dismay, I liked their eye candy value and sense of humor over any acting skills they may / may not posses…lol, oh well, sorry boys, I am only human, maybe that makes me shallow, I don’t know or really care too much about it
The very first movie I ever went to was at a drive-in with my sisters, and my eldest sister and her boyfriend, Annie in 1982… I couldn’t see what all the fuss was about, from my parents perspective or from a going to the movies perspective…we were just glad to get out of the house for a few hours, I really don’t remember too much about the movie at all
Ironically enough, my first husband and I started ‘going out’ together as it was called back in those days, (1983) when our church youth group went to see a movie… the movie itself was lame, but I do remember thinking how cute he was; my soon-to-be boyfriend/husband sitting next to me, and by the end of the movie we were holding hands…hmm… maybe my mother did have a point after all? hehe
As we courted/dated, whatever you wanted to call it, we went to the movies together a lot
In fact, the theme song from Mannequin, “Nothing’s gonna stop us now” was the song I walked down the aisle to when we got married in 1988, I know this upset my parents, they were hoping for ‘here comes the bride’
“Pretty Woman” was my favorite movie, 1990, can’t blame a gal for romanticizing about my tall dark and handsome Richard Gere swooping me off my feet and riding off into the sunset in his limo…yes please!
As the years went by, movies became my sanity, my escape from reality. Reality was an abusive marriage, yelling, screaming, more drama than anything any Hollywood Director could ever manufacture, let alone imagine or conjure up
“Sleeping with the Enemy” had nothing on my real life at the time
I escaped for a few hours and was able to just ‘tune out’
I didn’t really care what I saw, I just needed a break from ‘life’
It really wasn’t until I had teenage kids that I ever went to the movies for any real depth or meaning
The Baby Years:
I remember taking my boys to the movies very early on, they were well behaved and always excited to go to the cinema, it was an exciting day out and a couple of hours for me to relax and not have to ‘parent’
I never took them to adult movies when they were little, I wasn’t that selfish. If there were movies I wanted to see and I never had the luxury of babysitters, (and I never did), I usually missed the movie, stayed home and waited till they came out on dvd. I missed going out to the cinema and missed out on a seeing a lot of movies on the big screen from 1993-2002
We usually only went to see kids movies, it would never have ever occurred to me to take babies or toddlers to ‘grown up’ movies as many do today, you just stayed home, that’s what you did
Our dvd collection was vast, we could have opened a video store we had so many. We had a spare room with movie posters plastered all over the wall
It was a fun thing to stay home and watch movies after the kids were in bed, but not the same as seeing them at the cinema
I missed the whole going out thing, the environment and atmosphere you get at the cinema, not to mention the big screen and sound system and putrid smell of popcorn (i don’t know why, it turns my stomach)
The Toddler Years:
The first movie I remember my sons were the most excited about, I mean so excited they couldn’t sit still and were giddy with delight about seeing at the cinema, was Spider-Man, the Tobey Maguire one in 2002, I’ll never forget how excited they were that day (3 & 9 years old) and I remember thinking to myself, how happy I was that they had a love for going to the movies, they probably didn’t, they just liked Spiderman
We also saw the animated film ‘Spirit’ that year, my youngest son would have been about 3 years old. He remembers watching it and says it was the first movie he really remembered watching at the cinema. Funnily enough, our local dentist has been playing that movie in their waiting room for the last ten years we have been going there. Makes me smile
The very same two sons now have an avid love for going to the movies and we go as often as we can, more than most families do.
I love going to comedies, Kristen Wiig, Jason Bateman, they crack me up
I now have a much greater appreciation for movies, I now love movies that make you FEEL something where as before, I used to go to solely to tune out from feeling any emotion at all
I never really realized it before, because of all the other outside noise and drama going on in my life at the time was so emotionally draining
I don’t cry very often at all when it comes to movies, but I did cry when I saw Benghazi and Patriot’s Day
In fact my two sons (23 and 17) are far more sensitive when it comes to the movies and both told me they have cried in movies that I have not had that reaction to
I won't see occult type horror movies or anything scary I refuse to pay someone money to scare the crap out of me, I've had enough of that to last me a lifetime at home for free
My eldest son has convinced me to see far more movies than I would normally have gone to see. Funnily enough, one movie I most resisted, was Dr Strange. I really didn’t want to go to. I did however want to spend time going out with my sons, so I went. I ended up Loving that movie far more than I ever thought I would. That movie probably is the one that has surprised me the most
The most boring movie I have seen was 2003 “Holes”, but my son (then 10 yrs old) loved it
The most angry I think I have ever felt at a movie was Benghazi, seeing it as the mother of young men changes your perspective a lot
The most emotionally draining movies have been ones about people dying of cancer or kids dying, it’s too much
I don’t like being that emotionally invested in movies, life is hard enough
I do see movies from a very different perspective now having been through heartache, marriage, divorce, family deaths, being a mother and a blended family. It does change how you watch movies
My 23yr old, 17 yr old and I can all watch a movie like “La, La Land”and come away with a totally different perspective.
My 23 year old loves movies so much he is writing screenplays and planning to move to Los Angeles to make movies and wants to be a Director some day. His cousin, my nephew is in the industry as well. So they watch movies very differently than I do. They get into all the nitty gritty technical side of how a movie is made, the directing, editing, cinematography of a movie, the acting as a craft
I am more of a romantic at heart and love a good love story and something that makes you feel something. I just want to watch a movie and go home. I have too much else going on than to obsess over how its made
I do love a good sweeping cinematography because of my interest in photography and do like watching some kids animated movies just to see how they did the artwork/animation because of my interest in art and cartoons from an artists viewpoint
I also love a good comedy, there just aren’t that many really funny movies around
And of course my second husband hates going to the movies, it’s just not his thing, he’s more into sports and football, so that’s disappointing. He gets very little down time from his job so he won’t go with me to the movies. I’ve had to see too many romantic movies on my own when there were only couples in the theatre and I was there on my own. It’s not the same as seeing a movie with your partner
In the last few years I have seen hundreds of movies alone, it’s still my ‘happy place’ if I need to tune out for a few hours, if I am sad, or had a fight or someone has died… it relaxes me and gives me a time out from whatever is going on in life that I don’t want to deal with
I love social media as much as the next person, but when it comes to movies, I must admit, I don’t want to see or hear about the actors home life.
There was so much more mystery and romanticism back in the days when we knew nothing about the actors in our favorite movies. I hate seeing cute young actors turn into grumpy, ugly old men, I want to remember them how they were in the movie.
I don’t care or want to know about their political views and award ceremonies are certainly not the time or the place for it
Some of the magic of the movies has gone when we see all the scandals and carryings on about the actors and their home lives. I don’t care or want to know who dated who or who broke up with their boyfriend, it really doesn’t interest me
We go to the movies to tune out from our lives, why do we need to be invited into all their drama?
And I love seeing trailers at the movies, but I really don’t want to see behind the scenes all the goofs and blunders and inaccuracies of a movie
I just want to die with fond memories of going to the movies and watching a movie for the movie’s sake